I broke an agreement.
Not an agreement I made with a friend, or the Sheriff. An agreement I made with myself.
If you’re into self-help, then you’ve probably heard of – if not read – The Four Agreements.
The Four Agreements
Here are the cliffnotes:
1. Don’t Take Anything Personally
2. Be Impeccable With Your Word
3. Try Your Best Every Day
4. Don’t Make Assumptions
That’s the one I broke – the one about assumptions. I break it a lot.
I make assumptions about people all the time — their motives, their families, their finances…
You name it. I’m sure about it.
A Story About Assumptions
The Sheriff decided to clean all the windows in the house – inside and out. (I know, I should just end it there and be grateful…)
Anyway, at some point, he needed the dustbuster. (Don’t ask…just keep reading).
Apparently the dustbuster was full of dust because I heard him muttering and then I heard him go outside.
Later, in our backyard, I discovered this:
As much as I really wanted to express my gratitude for his cleaning the windows, I couldn’t get over that he’d just emptied the dustbuster on the lawn.
Are you with me on this??
I mean, ridiculous, right? He couldn’t just empty it into a trash can??
Obviously, he just decided it would be easier to dump the lint in the yard.
I wanted to say ‘What the hell! Did you have to dump the lint in the yard?’ Instead, thanks to years of therapy, I asked in the kindest, least judgmental tone I could muster…
’Hon, why did you dump the lint in the backyard?’
The Sheriff: I was thinking maybe the birds could use it for their nests.
I’m going to work on not making assumptions. Can I assume you’ll do the same?