This is the first of two posts about judgment.

The first of two more critical life lessons I have learned from my teacher (okay, therapist).

I’ve shared her thoughts on love, on making a significant life change and on relationships, but her lessons about judgment help me through every day.

Rush To Judgment

Judgment is something I’ve been wanting to write about for quite some time so I have to thank Rush Limbaugh for opening the door with his scathing remarks about Sandra Fluke.

Judgment can be debilitating. Fear of judgment is probably the single most limiting factor in decisions we make about our lives, our relationships, our jobs. It inhibits growth.

How differently would you behave if you did not fear the judgment of others.

Here Comes The Judge

Rush Limbaugh called Sandra Fluke a slut and a prostitute.

There is almost no one with a louder voice or a larger audience than Rush, and he broadcast this message across the world thinking, of course, that he could bully her into oblivion and get a nice ratings boost at the same time.

No doubt he expected the Georgetown law student to crumble with shame or respond in a way that was defiant or defensive.

But Fluke seemed unfazed.

How is that?

Because Ms. Fluke understands the most important lesson about judgment.

You Be The Judge

That’s it.

When someone judges you, the first thing you need to do is ask yourself…

“Is it true?”

It’s that simple.

If the answer is no, then you can simply dismiss the judgment as a reflection of the person who said it, rather than a reflection of you – and assume others will do so as well – unless they, too, share the flaws and insecurities of the person who misjudged you in the first place.

Have you ever been misjudged? How did you respond?

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