The ParmFarm is about growth, a concept that is often elusive and somewhat difficult to define. In the physical sense, you know it when you see it, as in a child who has grown, or a tree. Professional growth may also be ‘seen’ or measured, by looking at your bottom line. But when it comes to personal growth, you know it when you feel it, and I felt it this past weekend.

There may be no greater growth spurt than that moment in time when we overcome fear. How can we grow, personally or professionally, if we are paralyzed by fear? I’m afraid we can’t!

But, overcoming fear is easier said than done and usually involves a significant revelation. And, like all good revelations, mine arrived with the drama of breaking news.

This just in….I will never be perfect.

(I do realize this is NOT news to those of you who know me personally…). Turns out though, in terms of Jungian psychology, I am ‘addicted to perfection’. Or, stated differently, paralyzed by my fear of not being perfect, so much so that it is (was!) crippling my creativity and stifling my growth.

I want to be perfect. I want the ParmFarm to be perfect. In fact, I have rewritten this post ten times in my efforts to make it perfect. I want to be a perfect wife, a perfect friend, a perfect daughter, blah blah blah. And, my fear of not being perfect has been driving me perfectly mad. Are you with me here?

In the past few months we have learned that Tiger Woods is not perfect, nor is David Letterman. And, as I was reading a post last week by one of the most popular bloggers in the world I thought ‘this isn’t really very good at all’. And then over the weekend it occurred to me — nobody’s perfect. It seems perfectly obvious now but it wasn’t obvious, until then.

It is often said that you can’t succeed unless you try but if you try to be perfect, you won’t succeed. So I will no longer try to be perfect.

Which is perfectly fine with me.




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